In the company of men

So my Facebook and Twitter, is filled with people sharing India’s Daughter Documentary. I wonder if this is perpetuating a prejudice of it’s own kind, I understand there are men out there, with an attitude documented, but I have a different story to tell.

So I choose to look at men like my husband, brother and a lot of my friends on my Facebook list who are some of the most compassionate, sensitive and beautiful human beings. These men are what I call humanists, they felt the same pain as I felt when the Nirbhaya incident happened. They were hurt, tormented and wondered how we could change it. To stereotype, Indian men and put them in a box, I don’t think I agree with that statement. I read a post about an Indian student, who lost their internship abroad due to this prevalent bias that Indian men can’t be trusted.

My husband has cooked meals for my daughter, been a support for our daughter and I also see my friend’s husbands do a similar thing.

Male colleagues have understood how it is difficult to multitask and have been sensitive to the concerns.

My worry is we choose to show documentaries and focus on one side of the nation. Do we want to raise our children in an environment of paranoia? Let me say I’m in the company of men, who I have utmost regard for and I think they choose to be that way. So I would love to hear stories of Indian men who have supported you and I’m sure all of us have that one person at least in our life.

Please share this post widely if you can and tell me your story..stories that help us fight the prejudice against Indian men

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Faith to Fathom,Strength to Surrender

Sometimes when I look back at life,important people and how life has shaped,I’m amazed. There is so much we try and control,but life chooses to control us. I remember as a teenager worrying about my life choices as I took Humanities and decided to pursue Psychology.The only thing over the years,that has remained constant is the ability to dream, to be passionate about work and somewhere perceptive about people.Life amazed me by providing opportunities,when I saw none.I have always wondered if being good,being punctual and choosing to follow your heart works?
It does work only if we choose to be patient.Somewhere in your 30’s sometimes you feel like you are coming to being. Who said life stops at thirty? May be when you are in your 30’s,you allow life to happen to you. As I write this,I think of a yacht party I went to,where overlooking the seas,I felt I was ready to surrender.I remember when I was 20 years, I had this dream,which continues to inspire me and over years now I have understood it.

I saw these two lines

Faith to Fathom
Strength to Surrender

It’s strange how I oscillate when it comes to faith nd then strangely find it comforting in moments.Its so many years since the dream happened,but I guess Im beginning to see what it means to surrender.